General wisdom says that life changes are stressful. Whether getting married, having a baby, changing jobs, or losing a loved one, experiencing a big transition puts great stress on the body, heart, and soul.
It therefore did not come as much of a surprise that, as true firstborns, Leon and I ended up tackling three life changes at the same time. Talk about being poster children for overachievers (or, as some friends have said, crazy people).
We are now 36 days away from our wedding, and things are only picking up speed from here. Guest counts must be finalized, checks to vendors must be written, and meetings must be held with our pastor and church coordinators to go over details for the big day. We’re both incredibly excited about the wedding, don’t get me wrong, but the wedding is one of many things on the checklist right now.
Besides working on wedding plans, we also just closed on a condominium in northern Virginia, not to mention that Leon is about to make a career change. When we’re not discussing wedding plans, we’re arranging movers to move my apartment’s contents into the new place and reading over his resume. My mom flew out for a weekend to help us look for furniture for the condo, and we spent 13 hours with one meal break running around D.C. to find things. Granted, it’s a small (I like to say cozy) condo, but it takes a lot of work to furnish even a D.C.-sized place.
I asked my mother if being an adult would always feel like you were sprinting on a treadmill, just one second away from tiring out and flying right off the back (which I did in college once–it didn’t feel very good). Her answer? “You guys are just getting started.”
As I look over the “to do” list that just keeps growing, much like the stress lines in my forehead, my current goal is to get down the aisle without collapsing at the end. At least, we’ve been telling ourselves, if we push hard now we’ll enjoy several benefits later. We have our honeymoon to look forward to, with the daily grind being temporarily replaced by a French Polynesian bungalow and the beach. Then we’ll return to an actual home. One that we own. As a married couple.
This time period feels a lot like running track in junior high, when I was completely out of shape but the coach would not take the “I have no desire to be an athlete” argument that I should not be held to McKinney ISD gym class standards. I remember running around the track cursing the day, feeling miserable, and praying that I wouldn’t throw up my peanut butter and jelly sandwich from lunchtime.
As the finish line approached during the last lap, though, I remember feeling a surge of energy. And after crossing the line, it felt pretty good to know that I had finished the run. Before I threw up, of course.
We’re at that point with life changes–the final lap is approaching, and we’re running toward the finish line of “adulthood, chapter one.” Only this time there won’t be a snobby classmate watching me run around the track, yelling out in front of the class, “Douthit, I can walk faster than you run!” (She’s not invited to the wedding).